Exactly. The assumption that marriage automatically makes a woman safe is doing so much unpaid labor in these conversations.
Marriage can be beautiful with the right man. But marriage itself is not a force field. It doesnt magically turn a selfish man generous, a careless man considerate, or a domestically useless man into a partner. A ring isn't protection if what it protects is his access to her labor.
This is why I think more women are getting sharper about the question. Not “Will he marry me?” but “What does marriage to him actually cost?”
"the idea that entering a legally binding contract with the person most likely to kill you is the greatest form of security you can have" yeah!!!!!!! god ive missed you on here
Exactly. The assumption that marriage automatically makes a woman safe is doing so much unpaid labor in these conversations.
Marriage can be beautiful with the right man. But marriage itself is not a force field. It doesnt magically turn a selfish man generous, a careless man considerate, or a domestically useless man into a partner. A ring isn't protection if what it protects is his access to her labor.
This is why I think more women are getting sharper about the question. Not “Will he marry me?” but “What does marriage to him actually cost?”
Beautifully said
love your brain 🫡😚
"the idea that entering a legally binding contract with the person most likely to kill you is the greatest form of security you can have" yeah!!!!!!! god ive missed you on here
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